Intimate relationship can bring forward our highest potential as well our deepest fears. It can also bring forward impulsive and unconscious habits we engage in unknowingly, to avoid difficult feelings.
From the moment we are born, we live, breath, and survive in and through relationship with another person. Our brains and bodies are made for relating, understanding, nurturing, and being loved. In fact, the need for love, acceptance, and connection is part of our biology. As we grow, we also need to separate from this attachment figure or figures, to meet our own needs. The chemistry and patterns of connection, or attachment, early in life, become a blueprint for the way we connect and experience intimacy as adults. So also, does our ability to care for our own needs, physically and emotionally.
As adults, it is common we find or long for relationships where we can feel accepted, nurtured, safety, and belonging. Commonly, this is through romantic partnership. This base and primal patterning forms such a powerful drive and is so linked to our survival and well-being, that it is no wonder that intimate relationships can cause such difficulty. There is a lot at stake. Most people have desires and expectations of their partners to meet so many needs, and yet, a partner is a separate and sovereign entity.
If you and your partner struggle with feeling disconnected, painful arguments, infidelity, or loss of intimacy, and you are both open to exploring how to change these dynamics, then couples therapy could be of benefit.
Couples Therapy Outcomes:
Clear and effective communication
Increased empathy and understanding for one another
Transformed negative patterns
Deeper trust and emotional intimacy
Increased sexual intimacy
Mutual support for independent growth